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Full Circle Adoptions
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| Dear
Birthmother Letter / Profile |
Brian and Brian
Dear Birthmother,
Although we have not yet had a chance to talk or meet, one could only
imagine the difficult decision you are facing. We hope for a warm and
supportive connection with you as we travel the adoption path together.
Clearly, this is a difficult decision. Thank you for the chance to tell
you of our dream to become parents through adoption. Thank you for allowing
us to introduce ourselves.
Our commitment is to give your child the best life possible. One of
us will be a full time, at-home parent, and the other father has a schedule
allowing him to be home all summer long (with a relaxed, flexible schedule
the rest of the year). We look forward to being active, involved parents
devoted to raising your child to be the happiest person he or she can
be. We believe that the most important thing is that your child will
have a home filled with unconditional love and security. It takes a
strong and loving person to pursue the difficult decision that you are
considering in your life, and we both respect and admire you.
We were both blessed by our parents with the first name Brian. While
this gives us humor and sometimes a little confusion, our family, friends
and loved ones have easily navigated this by coming up with affectionate
nicknames for us that refer to our passions, Brian R. has been called
"nurse" because of his devotion to medical care of children
and Brian K. has been called pilot because of his interest in airplanes
and aviation. Our child will know Brian K. as Dad (who'll be full time
at home) and Brian R. as Daddy. We'll also include our photos in this
letter so that you can know who we are.
Your child will grow up with parents who have been together close to
a decade, who are in a stable long-term marriage. While we knew each
other socially about ten years ago, we came together about eight years
ago and have been together ever since. Our love and friendship have
grown over the years and we look forward to sharing our lives with children.
This past year we were married. We live in the state of Massachusetts,
which legalized marriage in 2004. We never imagined that we would have
the pleasure of marrying. Now that we are married we are eager to grow
our family by adopting a child.
Brian R. (Daddy) is 36-years-old and has a Masters in Nursing. His work
will allow him lots of flexible time to be an active dad. He works both
as a Professor of Nursing with a specialty in pediatrics and as a staff
nurse in the pediatric intensive care unit of a local teaching hospital.
He has also spent time volunteering with the Nursing Christian Society,
where he traveled to the Dominican Republic giving medical care to people
in the most remote areas of the island. His current work schedule will
allow him to be a full time parent for the entire summer as well as
an extended period between semesters. There is a wonderful paternity
leave policy which will enable him to take off three months when a child
joins our family to spend valuable bonding time with the child.
We both value education and will provide a home that will include the
support for education. We have started an education fund so that our
children will feel confident of being able to pursue their dreams and
having a college education free from worries about finances.
Brian K. (Dad) is 39-years-old and works in a laboratory, as part of
a biotechnology team that makes medicine for children. He has worked
for many years in this field. Once a child joins our family, Brian will
be a full time at home parent. He is looking forward to having the great
opportunity to be a stay at home dad. Due to many years as professionals,
we have established sufficient financial stability to enable Brian to
stay at home with our child. We feel our child should have one of us
home to provide day to day love and care.
We are fortunate that our family and friends are as excited about our
adoption as we are. Both of us are the youngest in the family. Brian
R. is the youngest of three children and Brian K. is the youngest of
five children. Our niece Katie and nephews Timothy and Jonathon love
to spend time with us at our camp in the summer playing at the beach.
They especially love watching the firework celebration on the Fourth
of July.
Our families are both extremely close and value the times that we spend
together. They all look forward to welcoming a new child into their
lives, as a grandchild, a niece or nephew and as a cousin. As we both
come from families with siblings, it is important to us to eventually
have at least two children. We would like our child to have a sister
or brother to grow up with.
The holidays are a very important time to us and we look forward to
include our child in future parties and family gatherings. Christmas
in particular is one of our most favorite holidays, as we love to decorate
the entire house; in fact we put up our tree the day after Thanksgiving.
We spend the Christmas holiday with both our families, Christmas Eve
with Brian K.'s family and Christmas Day with Brian R.'s family. There
are certain foods that are a tradition with our families. Mom and sister
Roxanne make 2 huge kettles of their special meatballs; by the end of
the night, seldom are there any left. Chicken wings and banana and strawberry
pie are not far behind as favorites of the season. Everyone usually
starts opening the gifts around 9:00pm and finishes around 11:00pm.
We're home by midnight, in just enough time to get rest for the holiday
celebration with the other side of our family. We are blessed to have
a large extended family to share the holiday season with.
We'll share with our child the kind and thoughtful values with which
we were raised. We will offer a blend of church traditions, ultimately
focusing our energies on giving our child a sense of community and the
importance of being kind and caring towards everyone in need. We look
forward to enjoying services as a part of participating in our community
and particularly look forward to going to church on Easter and Christmas.
We live within a small city in Massachusetts in a new colonial style
home that is part of a growing neighborhood. The neighborhood is filled
with many other young families with children of all ages. We are famous
for our summer barbecues, where all our friends and family come over
to enjoy the times together in our yard and refresh themselves in our
pool. Brian K., who is an excellent carpenter, looks forward to building
a swing set with a slide in our backyard for hours of fun with our child.
We have a nice camp at the beach, where we spend some of our weekends
in the summer. The camp is part of a private campground, where there
is so much to do, like bike ride, trail walking and swimming in the
ocean. There is always a crowd of children gathered at our camp site
playing volleyball and participating in arts and crafts, as Brian R.
volunteers as one of the family activity coordinators.
We know that considering adoption is one of the most important decisions
you will consider. We want you to know that we consider it very important
for your child to grow up with positive feelings for you and to know
of your love. We want to reassure you that we are open to connection
in the years to come. We want to share photos and letters with you,
if you'd like to receive them. And we're open to more contact as well,
if that's something you'd like. We think a child can only benefit from
knowing everyone who loves him or her. We look forward to hearing more
about what would meet your needs over the years that your child is growing
up.
We hope that this letter has helped to give you a glimpse into our
lives as a family. We appreciate you looking at our relationship, as
it is one that is based on love, honesty and commitment. We wish only
the best for you. Please stay well….. If you have anything you
wish to discuss further please do not hesitate to contact Full Circle
Adoptions at 1-800-452-3678.
Thank you and God Bless!
Brian & Brian
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