Full Circle Adoptions

As we write this letter, we admire your courage and understand the difficult decision you are contemplating for you and your child. We are grateful that you are taking this time to learn about us and about the love and family we could offer your child. We want you to know that should you choose us as the adoptive parents for your child we will do everything we can to make sure that his or her life is one that is filled with love, laughter, and honesty.

Since we first met, we have always known that children would be a part of our lives. Our family and friends have always assumed we would build a family. After trying for two years to conceive, doctors told us that we’d exhausted medical interventions to help us. We have made our peace with the fact that we will not be able to bear a child and we look forward to building our family through adoption. We are very grateful to be able to participate in adoption so that we can welcome a child into our home and hearts. Please know that if you chose us as your child's adoptive family, we will cherish and nurture your child all the days of our lives. Nothing will make us happier than to provide a stable and loving home for your child.

Spending as much time as possible with our child is very important to us, and we have planned that after the arrival of our son or daughter, for the first year, one of us will be home full time. After which, Martha will return to work only part time. We are lucky to have reached a level of success in our careers and have supportive work environments to allow us this opportunity. Nancy and I have also had the blessing and continual support of our families to complete both our bachelors and masters degrees. We look forward to passing that gift on to our child and have already begun to save for their college education. We are committed to providing our child with the opportunities to learn and grow and are excited to share in the journey of learning together.

We met 12 years ago while working for the same company. It only took a short time for us to become friends. I (Nancy) knew Martha was going to be an important person in my life when, early on in our friendship, I took her home to meet my family after work. After a few minutes, I looked into the family room and there she was plopped down in the middle of the room taking on the 2 tough critics - my nieces. She won them over and has become an integral member of the family ever since. After many coffee breaks, dinners, and long conversations, our relationship became more serious after about 6 months. We have learned many important things about each other and ourselves as our relationship has grown. I (Martha) have learned that stopping to reflect and consider choices from a number of perspectives can generate more options and give us, as a couple more choices. I (Nancy) learned that humor can be found almost anywhere. Our friendship is the foundation of our strong partnership, which has allowed each of us to change and grow (individually and together) into the people we are today.

Nancy is one of six children and Martha is one of three. Together, we have nine nieces and nephews and we cherish the time we spend with them. We are lucky to have many members of our family who live close by. Whether it is a special occasion or simply going to a baseball game, we enjoy getting together as a group. Each summer, we look forward to going to Martha’s parents’ beach cottage in Maine. It is where Martha spent her childhood summers, filled with many happy memories and family traditions. I (Martha) can’t wait to help our son or daughter discover the joys of tidal pools and hermit crabs!

Nancy’s family is famous for large family gatherings. It usually starts with everyone in the kitchen helping to prepare a dinner and has been known to end with a pinata and dancing! Whether it is spending time to teach the newest family members the “secret” family recipe for raviolis from scratch or hanging out on the beach, building a big fire and roasting marshmallows at the end of the day, our family events are full of love and laughter.

Our ten-year-old nephew, Devin, holds a special place in our hearts. Devin was born prematurely and we remember the days we scrubbed in to visit him at the neonatal unit. From that point on we have played active roles in his life - Martha even got the opportunity to take care of Devin 2 days/week during the first couple years as she completed her master’s degree. He has the ability to make us dress up in the most outrageous Halloween costumes he can come up with. His love of Legos has resulted in Martha spending hours building and rebuilding (to get it just right!) a robotic car on Christmas. His imagination and storytelling skills are the reason that Nancy has spent hours on the phone discussing the activities of his various imaginary friends. Experiencing the growth of our relationship with Devin has been natural and positive and makes us eager to know the joys of daily parenting.

We look forward to repeating the happy experiences we have had with our nieces and nephews with our own child. Going apple and pumpkin picking in the fall, building sandcastles on the beach, snuggling before bedtime to read favorite stories after bath time, watching with a mixture of pride and apprehension when our child rides a bike for the first time - feeling their sense of freedom and accomplishment; and enjoying the quiet moments when we have our child on our laps and the rest of our family sitting around the dinner table telling favorite family memories all of these are joys we can't wait to share with a beloved child.

We live in a residential neighborhood within Boston. As we walk our dog Bailey, we always run into a diverse group of kids playing basketball or riding their bikes. Our community is friendly and safe. We really enjoy getting to know our neighbors. Living in the city we are lucky to have nearby access to a zoo, an aquarium, museums, professional sports teams and a culturally rich environment. We look forward to continuing our exploration of the area with our son or daughter.

We want our home to be a place where our child feels safe to take chances in order to grow into a happy, strong, independent individual. We will support them along the way whether it is attending early morning soccer practice or helping them with book reports. We want them to laugh often, to experience more than just what is outside their door, and to have a sense of purpose. Martha and I are both spiritual people - we will share our strong belief in the importance of faith in day to day life, and the value we place on being an active and caring member of the community. Our child will grow up knowing of our strong feeling that every living being is entitled to respect and dignity. This belief, coupled with the conviction that one person can make a difference, and as a community we can make changes that can promote greater harmony between people, is what we hope to pass on to our child.

We hope you have begun to learn about us as a couple and as potential parents. We are committed to providing a loving and nurturing home and believe that we can offer your child a wonderful life. We understand that this is not an easy decision for you. We would be happy to send you regular photos and letter updates as your child grows up, so that you can see for yourself the life your love and concern has provided for your child. Your child will always know that your decision was made with strength and devotion. If chosen to be the parents of your child, we will be grateful to you every day of our lives.

We would welcome the chance to speak with you to hear about your hopes and dreams for your child. We are truly grateful to you for considering adoption and we would be honored to have the opportunity to be chosen by you. If you would like to speak with us directly would like to learn more about us please call Marla Allisan at Full Circle Adoptions: at the toll free birthparent hotline 1 888 45-ADOPT.

Our thoughts are with you and we send our warmest regards,

Martha and Nancy