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Mary and Scott
We are grateful to you for considering
what must be a difficult decision. We
think of you and wonder what you are going through at this time.
Through our letter to you, we hope to help you feel more at ease as
you consider adoption. We also hope that our letter brings some comfort to you as
you consider us as possible parents for your child. Please know that we want nothing more in life than to become
parents and love a child with all our heart. After three years of trying, we have
come to the realization that we cannot have children on our own. We both love children and have agreed that what is most
important to us is having children and creating a family together.
We have spent much time soul searching and feel prepared and
excited about fulfilling our dream through adoption.
We knew from the start of our relationship that we wanted children
and we could not wait to become parents. We love spending time with
children, playing, talking and exploring new things.
Seeing each other interact with kids makes us feel that we will be
good parents – it seems to be a very natural and positive experience. We have been married for three years
and have known each other for six. We
met at a university where Mary was in graduate school and Scott was
working. We discovered our
interests were very similar, enjoying the great outdoors, camping, hiking,
biking, skiing and relaxing. We
cannot wait to share this outdoor experience with our child someday.
Our child will also have the opportunity to experience the arts, as
well. We enjoy music, art and
museums, and are currently members of the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston.
Whatever our child’s unique interests are, we will provide that
child with a wonderful education and a hands-on learning environment. I (Mary) work full-time as a family
nurse practitioner in a small practice with two physicians. I have enjoyed my experience there, especially watching
families grow together. However,
I am really looking forward to watching my own family grow and becoming a
mom. I plan to take time off to care for our child and be a full time,
fully attentive mom. I (Mary) know that Scott will be a
great dad. He has an
incredible amount of patience and understanding with our nieces and
nephews. They look to him to
entertain them and lead them on adventures.
He has a way of making everything - including collecting firewood
on our camping trips - seem fun and exciting.
He gets them engaged in conversations and keeps them talking for
long periods of time. For employment, I (Scott) work
full-time for a computer company installing and maintaining computer
systems and networks. I
create my own schedule and have a wide range of flexibility in arranging
my workday. Even though I
love what I do for work, I look forward to taking time off when our child
is born and finally being a dad. Luckily, I have a wonderful employer who feels that the
happiness of the employees is the key to the company’s success. Because of that, I will be able to work my schedule to
accommodate my responsibilities as a father. I (Scott) feel strongly that Mary will
be a loving and supportive mom. She
has an insatiable desire to raise a child in a family environment rich in
love and happiness. She
exhibits playfulness around infants and children that make them smile and
giggle with laughter. Our
nieces and nephews always ask for her and seem at ease when talking to
her. And seeing how much care
and effort she puts in our flower gardens, I have no doubt that a child in
our home will be embraced with an even greater level of tender loving
care. Our extended families are also an
important part of our lives. We
try to spend as much time as we can with both of our parents, siblings,
nephews and nieces. In the summer time, we go camping with Mary's brothers
and their families in New Hampshire.
This is a wonderful time to do things together, and spend more time
with the kids. We are
constantly amazed by all of their interests and love spending time with
them, talking about and looking at nature. We also gather together for
birthdays, holidays, and occasionally for hiking and skiing.
We feel lucky to have the support of our families and to have such
a wonderful relationship with all of them. Our families are looking
forward to creating more memories with our newest member. I (Mary) grew up on a dairy farm with
my three older brothers, and the farm still holds a special meaning for
me. Now my brother runs the
farm and my parents are still involved in its daily operations.
The kids all enjoy helping out, as well. Helping my mother feed the calves is always an incredible
experience for children, teaching them about animals and building a strong
work ethic. Our nieces and
nephews also love to get rides on tractor to help their grandpa or uncle
chop corn or alfalfa for animal feed.
I have become an avid gardener as a result of growing up on the
farm and having a grandmother who showed me the benefits of true gardening
and hard work. Scott and I
will want our child to learn how to garden and learn about the cows and
calves on the farm. The farm
will surely be a part of our child’s life and we see this as a wonderful
family tradition Our dog, Kiley, is also a huge part of
our lives. She is a black lab
mix, and we love her so much that we bring her almost everywhere with us.
Watching her around children has made us confident that she will
welcome our new baby with curiosity and attention!
Our neighbors all love her and will come visit her with treats in
hand when she is out on her run. We also feel that religion and faith
are important in our lives and would be an essential element in raising
our family. We still attend Mary’s church periodically, where we know
many in the congregation, but we are looking for a closer church to attend
more often. We enjoy the
social and supportive aspects of a church that provides an opportunity to
help others and be involved in the local community. Our suburban community is friendly and
safe. We get along with all
of our neighbors, exchanging favors like borrowing tools, shoveling snow,
and supporting school fund drives. We
live in walking distance to wooded areas where we hike weekly.
There is farmland close by and the center of town is only a mile
away. We have easy access to
Boston and New York City, as well as to the states of Connecticut, New
York, Vermont, and New Hampshire. We would like you to know that your child would be raised in a loving and supportive household. If you would like to see how your child is doing throughout the years, it would be an honor to send you photos and letters. We know that your decision is important and difficult for you. We also want you to know that we are open to your wishes for your child. We promise to give your child unconditional love, wonderful opportunities and enriching experiences. We would welcome a chance to meet you or talk with you. We would like to know more about what your hopes are for your child. Please know that, if you choose us, we will do everything we can to fulfill your dreams for your child. Please call Marla Allisan at Full Circle Adoptions: Toll Free Birthparent Hotline 1-888-45-ADOPT if you would like to learn more about us or to speak with us. We hope to hear from you. Wishing
you the very best, Mary and Scott |
Dear
Birthmother,